Dear Bently,

Today was an eventful day. Okay not really, I just feel like I have a lot of different things to say, and they don't really correlate with each other. So bear with me.

The first is you walked back and forth with me to the dumpster. And on the way we had some deep conversation. We discussed that you are wearing red, like Mario. Then we figured out we were matching because we were both wearing red! At one point I asked you what you wanted to be when you grow up. I have asked this question multiple times, because you never really give me an answer. I'm starting to think the idea is to complex for you. Anyways, you gave an answer this time! You said, "I was to be a pirate like Daddy, and strong like Daddy!" It melted my little mommy heart! I immediately had to call your Dad and tell him! He was touched too! :)

The hard part of the day came when I wouldn't let you play Mario Kart Wii. Can I tell you how much Mario Kart Wii has been such an issue in our house! You constantly want to play it. When you're not playing it you laze around and do nothing and just whine! It's seriously so annoying! You never give up asking! You ask over and over again. Ugh! So today I wouldn't let you play because you had already spent plenty of time in front of the tv. Your whines turned from, I want to play Mario Kart Wii to, "I want Annie to come over. You go to work Mom!" Now this isn't usually such a big deal. I get it. Annie comes over, and all she has to worry about is hanging out with you. Unlike me, who has to cook and clean and run errands and do other such not fun things. So I get it, Annie is fun. But today that was really, REALLY hard to hear. It might have been that you said it right after Livvy had been screaming for over an hour, or the fact that the house was a mess and I didn't have time to clean it and cook dinner. Or the fact that my dinner was going all wrong. But today, it hurt a lot. It hurt me that I can't be the one taking care of you all the time. It hurt to hear that, even if it's just when you're mad, you prefer someone over me. Now, I know in my non-emotional mind that you are just 3 years old and you  of course love your Mommy the most. But I am not a rational person when I am emotional. I guess I just want you to know that I love you more than anything. I am always here for you and I work hard so that one day I can be the one taking care of you all the time. All I want is to be a stay at home Mom. And maybe, with a couple miracles and some faith, we'll get there some time soon!

I love you so much my handsome man!

Love,
Mom

Dear Bently,

You have started getting so tired in the afternoons. You refuse to nap and you don't often fall asleep before 8:30, despite we usually have you in bed by 7:30. Yesterday you were exhausted. I know your tired when you tell me "Mom, I'm so tired!" We went to the store, where you sat in the cart the whole time, then I loaded you into the car. Every time we go to the store, I load you and Liv into the car and walk the cart to the drop off area. I do this, every. single. time. So I didn't think anything of it. I climbed back in the car and I hear your tiny voice say something. I ask "What?" You said, "I lost you!" That's what I always tell you when you wander away from me in the store. I turned and saw your little face, and your lip was quivering. I said, "I'm sorry! Were you scared?" You immediately burst into tears! I climbed out of the car, and hugged you the best I could with you in your car seat. I felt so bad! You were so scared! I told you I will never, ever leave you. Not ever. And I mean it! I'm always here for you my sweet son! I love you!

Love,
Mom

Dear Bently,

Being a mother is a strange thing. It changes you to your very core. Today I came home on break, expecting to find you happy and ready to eat dinner with me. As I walked to the house I heard you crying. I immediately knew something wasn't right. It's hard to explain, but I just knew it. I ran inside to find Annie apologizing to me, saying she didn't know what was wrong. I ran into the bedroom to find you bawling your eyes out on your bed. I can't explain to you the guilt I felt. The guilt of not being there for you when you were in such distress. I knew you were sick. There was no doubt in my mind. I scooped you up as quickly as possible and cuddled you and kissed you. There was no thought of "Oh but I might get sick". I just knew you were hurting and I hated it. Later, you threw up all over the couch. I do not like throw up. In fact I hate a phobia of throwing up when I was younger. But one look in your eyes, how scared you were, the throw up didn't even phase me. All I wanted to do was help you and make sure you were alright. You see, being a parent is an amazing thing. It changes you in ways you don't fully understand. All I know is I would do absolutely anything to keep you safe. To keep you from pain and worry. I heard a quote once that said,

"Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body."

This is exactly how I feel about you. I love you so much Bently. I hope you feel better. And forgive me for not being there for you when you were so sad and so sick. I love you more than anything in the entire world.

Love,
Mom

Dear Bently,

Literally 2 minutes ago you walked in to my work with your Dad. It was a normal visit where you covered the white board in smiley faces, commented on the cars you could see on the tv, and twirled in the chairs. As you left though you yelled back at me, "I love you the most Mom!" You have no idea how much my little heart just melted in that moment! I love you the most kid!

Love,
Mom

Dear Bently,

We went camping with my side of the family a couple weekends ago (August 15-16) I tried to get you amped up talking about sleeping in a tent. Turns out, that wasn't such a good idea. On more than one occasion you told us, "No sleep in a tent, that later!" :)

We arrived and you had a BLAST. I mean you loved ever second of it. You loved being around so many kids! You spent the beginning part with Kara mostly. You guys collected grasshoppers. It fascinated me watching you interact with the bugs. Mostly when we're at home you are obsessed with "popping" them. Aka squishing them! ;) But you had a blast alongside all the kids collecting the grasshoppers and showed no fear. I always worry my bug phobia will transfer to you!

Once we drove down the mountain and back (we forgot our food and had to go buy more) you seemed to more evenly spread out your time! You spent a lot of time with Uncle Cole's dog. It was adorable to watch how much you loved that dog. Too bad for you because Dad is severely allergic. That's a dream that will probably never happen!

You loved the campfire and did pretty well staying away from it. I was worried you would be bad, but you were safe and careful. You loved the s'mores too! Just like me! (Dad won't eat them!) Uncle Cole had brought up some children's Unisom and offered you some. That was the best idea ever! 30 minutes later you were exhausted and ready for bed. It still took you a good 30 minutes to fall asleep, but that's much better than I pictured. You almost slept the whole night. You woke up at 5 am and had a conversation with Dad. I mostly slept through it. But you eventually fell back asleep!

You had a melt down on our mini hike. You were just exhausted and out of your element. You were screaming and crying and wanting to be held. OH man. I thought for sure you were going to fall asleep on the car ride home, but surprisingly you and Dad stayed awake and sang together! :)

I love you my big handsome camping man! I can't wait for next year!

Love,
Mom

Dear Bently,

Today I took you and Olivia to the splash pad! We had a fantastic time! You were so adorable running around in the water! Then we walked over to the park and played on that until you decided it was, so so hot! Your flip flops broke a couple weeks ago and we can't find them on sale anywhere. So you've been wearing tennis shoes everywhere. I didn't think you should wear tennis shoes to the splash pad, thus your bare feat and hot park! :)

When we came home we made a paper chain countdown to preschool! Holy smokes, I can't believe your going to be in preschool. It's only 5 or so days away! You are so excited! And we had a grand time making the chain together. You helped me cut the paper and put the tape on it. I think you were quite proud of our little craft we made together.

Then we made cookies. I asked if you wanted to make cookies with me and you were ecstatic. You drug the kitchen chair over before I had even gotten a bowl out! Every time I put an ingredient in, you said "Oh I taste that!" You then proceeded to put your finger in the bowl and try everything from sugar to butter! You then ate more than your share of cookie dough! You kept sneaking your fingers into the bowl! Haha! Then you ate like 3 cookies! I'm surprised you went to bed so great tonight! All that sugar!

I guess you got it all out at Valerie and Dan's house. We went to see their condo for the first time and you had a blast giving the tour. You had never been there before but you wanted to give the tour. It was adorable to watch you run from room to room explaining what was in their. At one point your found a teddy bear. You were pretty in love. We left that room and then went into Val and Dan's room where they had a pile of blankets on the ground. You immediately said, "Oh that's the bear's bed." You then ran back to the room grabbed the bear and tucked him in. It was pretty dang adorable!

Today was just one of those amazing days were I didn't have to work and I could pretend like I was a stay at home mom. I loved the adventures we're able to have together when I'm not having to run to work or hurry through my break or do any other crazy thing. It was so fantastical! I loved every second of my day with you. You are seriously the cutest kid in the entire world and I can't get enough of you. I love that you can actually hold conversations with me and I feel like our relationship is two sided now.

I realized lately that you tell us "I love you Mom" or "I love you Dad" a lot. And randomly. As I was thinking about it, I realized, your Dad and I tell you I love all the time. We are definitely a family of I love yous and I am so glad you caught on. I love it when just randomly in the day, you come up, put your arms around me, and say "I love you Mom!" There is seriously nothing better in the entire world.

I love you my handsome man!

Love,
Mom

Dear Bently,

Today when I came home from work on break I had to park the car down from the apartment under the covered parking. As I started walking towards the house and I heard a squeal of delight ring through the air! I knew immediately that it was my Bently, excited for me to be home! And I was right! You suddenly appeared, running barefoot towards me with the biggest grin on your face! It seriously melted my heart! I scooped you up and swung you around and covered you in kisses as you giggled wildly. I can't even describe how much a treasure moments like this. I know eventually you might not like me so much. I know eventually you are going to grow up and get your own grown up opinions and there may even come a time where you hardly like me at all. But it's these beautiful moments that I will hold tight to and remember for always! I love you my handsome man!

I love you so much!
Mom